I recently turned 59 and with each passing year I’m acutely aware of how lucky I am to be alive and how precious the remaining days are that we have left on earth. While we don’t get to decide how many days we have left, we do get to choose...
Author Archives: Dana Hilmer
Busy, Busy
We are all so damn busy. How many times have you been walking through town and seen someone you haven’t seen in a while and the exchange goes something like… “How are you?” “Busy, Busy…” “How are you?” No real conversation. No real connection. And the day moves on, one...
The Stuff of Life
As I sit down to write this my heart is heavy AND full. Heavy because of the pain so many are experiencing in the world right now. So much suffering, divisiveness, loneliness… and my dear sweet dad is in his final days. And full… because life is so damn beautiful. It’s...
Don’t Should All Over Your Holidays!
Ironically, as I sit down to write this Natalie Merchant’s Kind and Generous is playing in the background and her refrain ” I want to thank you, thank you. Thank you, thank you. Thank you, thank you…” is playing over-and-over again. This of course is the spirit of the holidays....
Conjoined Twins No More
Wendy and I have been conjoined twins for four years now. What ???? That’s right. Thanks to the magic of Photoshop, in almost every promotional picture we’ve put out in the world we’ve been digitally conjoined to (kind of) appear like a picture was taken of the two of us...
Dump the Guilt
PRIORITIZING YOUR HAPPINESS AND WELLBEING IS NOT SELFISH. In fact, it’s one of the biggest gifts you can give to those you love.
Dump the guilt
PRIORITIZING YOUR HAPPINESS AND WELLBEING IS NOT SELFISH. In fact, it’s one of the biggest gifts you can give to those you love.
Is Uncertainty Getting You Down?
Uncertainty tends to have its way with us in midlife. And it’s really uncomfortable. Humans like certainty. We want to know. We want to plan. We want to control. In fact most of us would rather be certain about something – anything really – even if we don’t like what...
Stuck in your head?
Even the most ambitious person can find themselves saying “I wish I could just get out of my head!” It’s easy to kid yourself that you’re making progress because you’ve been exerting tons of energy figuring out your next step. But when you’re stuck in your head you are NOT...
Listen Up
Did you know that the #1 predictor of your happiness and wellbeing is the quality of your relationships? We need to belong. We want to be understood. And we need to know that we matter. So, if you want to have loving, beautiful relationships you really do need to listen....